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	<title>Nate Bettger &#124; Bend &#124; OR &#187; Relationships</title>
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	<description>Building bridges, connecting community, village alchemy                                                                 .</description>
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		<title>Reflections on a wedding and pain</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2012/02/06/reflections-on-a-wedding-and-pain/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:34:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here&#8217;s a little something from a wedding I attended in August of &#8217;06. The mystery is indeed mystery and such joyful experiences contain much paradox when we pay attention. Tuesday, September 05, 2006 Brian told me at the reception that &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2012/02/06/reflections-on-a-wedding-and-pain/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=1331&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Supported by the universe&#8230; Immensely!</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2012/01/06/supported-by-the-universe-immensely/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jan 2012 23:07:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s funny. I had this post in mind, that was entirely focused on little Brendan&#8217;s peaceful slumber in my arms. Of course, at my intended time of writing, what did the little guy decide to express to me but quite &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2012/01/06/supported-by-the-universe-immensely/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=1307&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Shame and the liberated self</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2011/09/15/shame-and-the-liberated-self/</link>
		<comments>http://natebettger.com/2011/09/15/shame-and-the-liberated-self/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2011 17:00:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Guilt]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[James Bowler]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I just read an article by James Bowler, S.J., entitled Shame: A Primary Root of Resistance to Movement in Direction. There were a few things that I really appreciated, one being his description of laying on layers of internal messages to &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2011/09/15/shame-and-the-liberated-self/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=1289&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Suffering&#8230; when you are not in control and you know it!</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2011/04/13/suffering-when-you-are-not-in-control-and-you-know-it/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Apr 2011 00:51:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How difficult it is to be a man and know that I am not in control. I want to fix so badly. In these days when Kat and I are really trying to learn about self-care and staying healthy for the baby, and struggling in our attempts, this lesson of control is so real. It is such an effort for me to call on that place of love and acceptance, of calm, patience, and breath. Presence remains... personal, loving, healing. And my prayers go there, and go there, and go there, and go there. Breathe, breathe, breathe... remember. <a href="http://natebettger.com/2011/04/13/suffering-when-you-are-not-in-control-and-you-know-it/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=1231&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Time&#8230; what is it good for? Absolutely everything!</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2010/10/06/time-what-is-it-good-for-absolutely-everything/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Oct 2010 15:30:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How much of your time is dedicated to the life of sustainable community? How much of your time is given to caring for the earth or cultivating relationships that will make a difference for generations to come? This is a &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2010/10/06/time-what-is-it-good-for-absolutely-everything/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=1108&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Reflections on tradition and community</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2010/10/01/reflections-on-tradition-and-community/</link>
		<comments>http://natebettger.com/2010/10/01/reflections-on-tradition-and-community/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Oct 2010 15:16:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My friend Marc, had some questions regarding tradition and community in response to my reflections on our ceremony, and I think it's worth a post.

Tradition helps us stay grounded in history which is absolutely essential if we are to adapt to change well. It’s a paradox really. Adapt yet ground in history. So, we as a community must know and celebrate (or even lament) our history, and yet we must continue to build new ways of doing ceremony and ritual. <a href="http://natebettger.com/2010/10/01/reflections-on-tradition-and-community/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=1090&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>From assuming to understanding</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2009/01/19/from-assuming-to-understanding/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Jan 2009 17:21:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[People have often asked me why I tend to frequently defer to questions rather than statements. &#8220;Just say what you think!!&#8221; There are reasons for this… and I see them coming out more frequently as I dive deeper into my &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2009/01/19/from-assuming-to-understanding/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=518&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Know the tree and the relationship will tell</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2008/09/17/know-the-tree-and-the-relationship-will-tell/</link>
		<comments>http://natebettger.com/2008/09/17/know-the-tree-and-the-relationship-will-tell/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 17 Sep 2008 21:19:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As I move forward with life and relationships, my beginnings with learning the art of bonsai continue to shape how I see the world and my interaction with it. I have been spending more time watching the trees rather than &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2008/09/17/know-the-tree-and-the-relationship-will-tell/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=391&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Why do we need community?</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2008/03/29/why-do-we-need-community/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Mar 2008 19:19:05 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[For the main intro to this long stretch on community go here. This Sunday night, our worship gathering will be focusing on the question: Why do we need community? I would pose the question to the reader (knowing your insight &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2008/03/29/why-do-we-need-community/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=190&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Becoming the invitation&#8230; defining success</title>
		<link>http://natebettger.com/2008/01/22/becoming-the-invitation-defining-success/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jan 2008 22:35:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Nate</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When our success is marked by quantitative measures, we are bound for unfulfillment&#8230; for it seems to measure our success by the number of people who show up, the amount of profit we produce versus the amount we spend, or &#8230; <a href="http://natebettger.com/2008/01/22/becoming-the-invitation-defining-success/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=natebettger.com&amp;blog=1059991&amp;post=145&amp;subd=natebettger&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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